Do you have permission?
What does it mean to be given permission and how do we give that to ourselves? The Merriam -Webster Dictionary defines permission as "the right or ability to do something that is given by someone who has the power to decide if it will be allowed or permitted".
When i think of permission, I think of the permission to be our full selves, permission to live the lives we desire, permission to be happy and even permission to be upset, bored, cranky or sad. Permission to be wrong and permission to make mistakes.
Permission is something I try to infuse in every forest therapy walk I do. Certainly I hope my guests enjoy the experience. I hope they notice the things which bring them pleasure. I hope they experience the sensation of that pleasure in their bodies. At the same time, I welcome feelings of grief, boredom or frustration. There is a sense of freedom in not having to be anything for anybody else. To be able to share our full selves and to be seen and held in doing so. Often we feel or are even told we need to show up in a certain way, we have to hide a part of who we are to be "presentable" or "acceptable" to those around us. To just be happy. I'm all for being happy. Happiness is great. And that is not the fullness of the human experience. What if we could know all of us was acceptable? What if we could accept the parts of us that we feel we need to hide? Our fears, our worries, our stories of not enough or less than. What freedoms might that give us?
A sense of self permission is something I'm experimenting with and growing into all the time. I've so often limited my own world and what I am capable of by my fears of how others might judge me. My fears of not being loved for all of me. My fears of being embarrassed or looking stupid or ridiculous and being abandoned. As I've tried to contort myself into something I'm not or hide the parts of me that I'm scared to show, I've limited how I show up in the world.
I've been using EFT tapping to explore and eliminate all the ways I've kept myself small out of my own insecurities and fears. In fact, it's what led to the creation of my workshops on overcoming procrastination, distraction and overwhelm. When I created my first one, I did lots of tapping to release old stories that did not serve me. Then I gave myself permission to "F" it up. I had wanted to create a workshop for years and thought I had to have everything in perfect order before I moved forward. That thinking just kept me stuck and kept me from even trying. When I granted myself permission, I knew whether it went well or poorly, I would not melt. In fact, the opposite, i'd be stronger because i'd have learned something. It was very freeing to move forward with that thought process. And in fact it went great and led to an abundance of new ways forward including several new clients and my fledgling Youtube channel. Check it out, if there's something you'd like to see on it, just let me know: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1-zwB1uH32v8EfGKiJsQyA?view_as=subscriber
How do you give yourself permission to bring and be your full self?
This weekend you have two opportunities to explore that with me:
Why do we struggle to get things accomplished even when we really want to do them. We’ll explore the demons that get in our way and remove them from our nervous systems in my next EFT Tapping workshop on eliminating procrastination, distraction and overwhelm. Join us this Sunday - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/moving-beyond-procrastination-distraction-and-overwhelm-with-eft-tapping-tickets-113948368638?ref=eios
This Sunday July 26th, calm and soothe your nervous system as we are guided in a series of invitations to bathe our senses in the natural world. We'll engage with mindfulness and play. Join from your home, your yard or a nature spot near you.
Virtual Forest Bathing
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/113949239242
Next time I'll talk about intimacy with ourselves and the earth. We'll examine why that is so important with all that is happening in the world right now. Stay tuned. In the meantime, I hope to see you Sunday for one or both events.
If you could use more individualized support, contact me and let’s schedule a session or a time to discuss if EFT is right for you.
https://www.inconnectionwithnature.com
(Joining the EFT workshop qualifies new clients for
a discount of 25% off your first session or 30% off your first block of sessions.)
To see the results others have gotten with EFT
https://www.inconnectionwithnature.com/praise/#eft
Or forest therapy:
https://www.inconnectionwithnature.com/praise
